Christina was exhausted. All afternoon, since she left work, she'd been running from room to room, jumping on her bed, and screaming in the bathroom with frazzled hair and an over-sized T-shirt. She was so excited. Tonight was her date with Robert Kensely. Who would have thought that he'd ask her out! Who would have thought he'd even notice her? After spending all her energy she sat cross-legged on her bed finding ways to call off the date. She didn't know what to wear, her hair was a mess, and she wouldn't even know what to say to him. Her stomach was fluttering with nerves...
It's not easy trying to let the best part of you shine through when trying to make a good first impression. Most people make their initial impression of you within the first five seconds of meeting you. They take in your clothing, your hair, and the way you carry yourself. When men are paying attention to you, 55% of what they see is your body language; they notice your handshake, your smile, your eyes, and all the other little vibes you give off toward them. Knowing how to make a great first impression is important. I've listed a few things to make sure you look out for when you're getting ready to make an impression on him that he simply won't be able to forget!
1. BE EARLY
Being late can demonstrate a lot of different things about a person. You appear to be inconsiderate to his time, easily portraying yourself as self-absorbed. You can come across as someone who doesn't fully have their life together, especially when you show up with a pot full of excuses. Making him wait is not sexy, in fact, it's irritating. Toss away the "fashionably late" and show up a bit early instead. It puts the ball in your court. If he's there when you get there that shows he was anxious and excited to meet with you and he'll be pleasantly surprised to see that you're such an efficient woman. Arriving early also allows you to get comfortable, and check out your surroundings.
2. EYE CONTACT
Let your eyes meet his eyes as often as possible. That shows him that he has all your attention and that he's the most interesting thing in the room. Now, I'm not saying to stare at him like a three headed creature, it is okay to avert your eyes slowly from time to time. Just try not to avert your gaze to solitary things like the wall, the ceiling, or random spots on the table.
3. SMILE!
This isn't listed as number one, but it is definitely what you should keep first and foremost in your mind. Smiling is contagious, and if you want him to be as happy about you as you are about him, your best bet is to do a lot of smiling. Smile, laugh, grin, do just about anything and everything that shows off your pearly whites. A smile will get him to trust you and find you much more approachable. He'll also think it's easier to open up to you because you'll appear kindhearted and full of life. No one wants to be around someone for long that's boring or dull.
4. DRESS APPROPRIATELY
Try not to show up at a high-class restaurant dressed like you're prepared for a day at the beach. If you're meeting up at a bowling alley, avoid the heels and a dress attire, despite how flattering it is for your figure. Use common sense and dress for the occasion. Remember, it's a date, you're not going to work so there's no need to be too conservative. Choose an outfit that best represents who you are; let it depict your personality and your energy.
4. KEEP THE CONVERSATION CASUAL
Remember, this is a first impression not confession night. Stay away from topics that are too heavy or babbling about your personal issues. You're really just meeting him and you might even realize that his personality and yours simply don't mix! As women, we always want men to notice our new hairstyle or make a comment about our outfits. Men would like the same in return. He could very well have spent as much time preparing for this moment the way that you did, so if you like his tie, or his hair, or whatever let him know! Focus more on feeding off each other's energy and just having a relaxing time together.
5. BODY LANGUAGE
Here's the tough one! What do you do with your hands, how to sit, how to talk?! It's actually simple, so you can stop over thinking it. Don't turn your back or shoulders to him, we all know it's rude but sometimes it happens.... subconsciously. Also, remember that it isn't about what you say so much as it's about how you say it. This means your tone of voice, how you're demonstrating with your hands, whether or not you're smiling and the distance between you and him. Do whatever feels comfortable, and allow your body to lead you. If you want to lean in, don't be shy and if you want to talk with your hands go right ahead! It will show him you're interested in him, and passionate about what you're discussing.
Good luck, and remember that the most important tip of all is to enjoy yourself. Let your guard down, and wipe away those worry frowns. Be confident in yourself, and as long as you remember that you're beautiful, intelligent, fun to be around, and charismatic it really won't matter much what he thinks. Last but not least ladies, mind your manners!
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