With her palms sweating, April sat on wooden chair trying to keep her infamous poker face. Thirteen of the world's most important people were about to enter the room and expect her to do one thing, and it was probably the most simple task in the world, asked of a woman. All she had to do was confirm everything she'd been saying for the past 15 months. The only difference was that now, she knew she was absolutely wrong and that she'd just been giving these men a reason to justify their killing. That's all they wanted from her. But now, she wasn't so sure she could deliver...
Being able to admit that you are wrong is probably one of the most difficult things to do when trying to coddle your pride. It gets especially complicated in situations where you've vouched for your "truth" countless times or when there are people who have had the utmost belief in what you have said thus far. Just the thought of admitting that you are wrong whether it be something you've said or something that you have done, reels in feelings of insecurity, and might cause you to think of yourself as a dishonest person simply because that's what you think everyone else will perceive you as. Admitting to yourself and everyone else around you that you are wrong is an important step in shaping yourself, and can have much more advantages than deciding not to do so.
RESPECT
When we live in a world saturated with crooks, liars, thieves, and selfish people with no regard for others, it's refreshing to find people that are forthcoming. Rather than bash you, most people will deem your ability to admit to your mistakes as an admirable quality. Even if they don't necessarily say it, and fall over each other trying to tell you how much they respect you, they will feel it, and eventually show it. The way they talk to you, treat you, and look at you will have a different tone- they will address you in a completely different manner. Not only will they grant you their respect, but you'll find that they will also be able to put more trust in you. Everyone knows you can't trust anyone that knows everything.
CLEARING YOUR CONSCIENCE
Can you imagine that burden of knowing that you're wrong, and not owning up to it? Just because you choose not to accept your wrongs, that does not mean it didn't happen. A lot of times, people either make excuses for their behavior, minimize it, or ignore it completely. By allowing yourself to continuously get away with doing the wrong thing, you're harming yourself consciously and subconsciously. You're tearing down the good that is naturally within yourself, and finding reasons to justify the bad. This damages your thought process, clouds your judgment, and affects the way you interact with others. The way you view yourself will begin to change, because inside you know that you aren't being the best person you could be. Although it appears to be daunting and it feels like a big step you're not prepared for, acknowledging your wrongdoings is actually the easier choice.
IMPERFECTION IS PERFECTION
Too many of us spend too much time trying to separate ourselves from who we are. Rather than being human, we strive to be perfect. We are beautiful because of the differences within us. We are unique because of our character. [Character: the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person or thing]. Our flaws are our features and our "blemishes" are our traits. By owning up to your wrongs and learning to accept them, we are admitting to our mortality. These mistakes that we make are what shape us as a person, and guide us on our own individual paths. Perfection is non-existent, but we can be made individually perfect through our imperfections.
THE TRUTH
Whether we have realized it as yet or not, we are naturally on a journey searching for the truth. This is why we are so opinionated; the reason we are such curious beings. It is within us to discover and to educate ourselves. We want to be able to progress and the only way to more forward is to acquire knowledge. The mistakes that we make should not be wasted on pampering our feelings. Feeding your ego should be very last on your list of priorities. When in doubt rely upon your instincts, your most basic and natural desires. By being wrong, you are receiving an opportunity of finding out what is right. Analyze what you've said or done wrong, and find the source of that. What was the action that caused your reaction? You will better understand yourself and who you are when you decide to figure out why you do things and not just categorize your actions as either right or wrong.
HUMBLE
My biggest struggle with personal growth was forcing myself to be humble. Perhaps because I am a fire sign (Aries), I always seemed to make my presence known, said whatever came to mind, and was not very sensitive to others. Despite my attempts to be more modest, to say only words that were necessary, to tone everything down about myself, I still slipped up more often than not. I also became frustrated with trying to hide who I truly was. After praying and asking for a change, God put me through a series of situations and events that caused me to change the way I view the world and the way I looked at other people. He brought me through humbling experiences. These challenging dilemmas that come across your path that seem to threaten who you are and how you view yourself in respect to the world, are the experiences you should use to learn very valuable lessons. Humility is your reward and a new-found respect for the woman that you are and the woman you are becoming is the greatest gift of all.
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